Lady Wrap Star: Meira!

Every once in a while in our Wrapunzel universe, we come across a woman with a really amazing perspective, one who inspires us with her stories. Everyone has a different journey toward hair-covering, and hearing someone else’s journey is both fascinating to read and comforting – often, we find something that reminds us of what we ourselves have gone through. And that’s why we’re so excited to introduce you to our latest Lady Wrap Star, Meira – this is her story. We hope it will enlighten and inspire you as much as it did for us!


“When I was growing up, our neighborhood was “ultra-Orthodox” Jewish, and in that world, I did get to see some hair covering. At that time, and in that place, the women who covered their hair outside of shul had only two options. They wore shaytls (wigs) whenever they needed to look good and they wore tichels whenever they didn’t need to look good. Those tichels were kerchiefs- small triangles of fabric tied around the head. They weren’t ugly, but they certainly weren’t pretty.

However, I grew up in a “Modern Orthodox” Jewish household. My mom never covered her hair outside of shul (synagogue). Neither did my grandmothers, my aunts, or my married cousins. So with the exception of the Rebbetzins I knew who wore shaytls, hair covering was off my radar. I never really considered it as something relevant in my world. And that led to some confusion. My teacher for Jewish studies in 1st and 2nd grade would show up in school with dark brown hair in a shoulder-length heavily layered hairstyle. It was very flattering on her. But this teacher also lived in my neighborhood and I would see her in shul on Shabbat. Same face, but here, her hair was gray, straight, and worn in a beehive updo. Naturally, I was a little shy about saying Shabbat Shalom to this person who had the same face as my teacher but who might be a totally different person.

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Only when I was 12 did the concept really enter my consciousness. My cousin got married and covered her hair. She has a small head and thin hair so she could wear department-store hats which are usually too small for full hair covering. To this day, she is the best hat-wearer I know. Several months later, a young woman from my shul got married and she too started covering her hair with structured hats. But I saw her show up in shul a few times with what looked like nothing on her head and that left me wondering ‘aren’t married women supposed to wear something on their heads?’ It wasn’t long before I figured out that she was wearing a shaytl.

Finally, when I was 16, I attended a shiur (lecture, class) in my shul and the rabbi was discussing hair covering. He went through the sources and his take was that covering the hair was simply a custom, not law. As it was, I wasn’t comfortable with the idea of wearing a shaytl and having people wonder if I was covering my hair or not. Plus, I imagined that many coverings would be hot or otherwise uncomfortable. So I figured that if it’s not law, then why bother?

The good news was that I was already active in NCSY (a Jewish outreach group for teens and tweens). I had a lot of friends and a lot of leaders whom I admired and respected and I wanted to emulate them. The married women all covered their hair. That made me more comfortable with the idea. But I still couldn’t stomach the idea of a shaytl. At that time, if you covered your hair, you had many more options than just the tichel and the shaytl. But you still had to wear a shaytl for work and for special events- you’d look weird otherwise.

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Two weddings changed everything. I went to a wedding in New York where the bride’s sister walked down the aisle wearing a beautiful hat that matched her gown. Then I spent a year studying in Israel and while I was there, I attended a wedding in which the only women wearing shaytls were the kallah’s (bride’s) mother and a few of her American relatives. All the other married women were wearing hats, berets, or mitpachot (Israeli scarves) and they all looked beautiful.

For me, that was it. I decided that once I got married, I would cover my hair but that I would not wear a shaytl. More good news: when my husband and I were dating, the subject came up in conversation and I found out that he didn’t prefer shaytls either, nor did his mother who favored hats, berets, and snoods. For our wedding, my mother-in-law wore a hat made to match her gown and she looked wonderful.

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I started covering with hats and berets, but something about mitpachot appealed to me and I tried them, but I had trouble finding wraps that I liked. The first wrap I discovered was the basic crown wrap. I liked it, but I wasn’t excited about it. Then, my husband and I went to Yerushalayim for our cousin’s bar-mitzvah and it was there that I saw a wrap that I loved. One of the relatives at the bar-mitzvah graciously showed me how to do the Yerushalmi twist. That wrap became a signature look for me for a long time. After a few years, I even took the plunge and began wearing mitpachot for special events. I felt more elegant and beautiful than I ever did before.

About 2 ½ years ago, a friend directed me to Wrapunzel. That was a watershed for me. Not only did I discover a plethora of scarves and wrap styles, but I found a whole community of women who love scarves as much as I do. That community has given me so much encouragement and support in so many ways.

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Along the way, I’ve learned two important things involving hair covering:

  • Hair covering is a very deeply personal mitzvah. Therefore, every woman needs to find the method of covering that works well for her and leaves her looking and feeling her best. Otherwise, she’ll resent it. Some women are more comfortable wearing hats in shul and that’s it. Others are more comfortable wearing hats or berets and showing their own hair underneath. Still others wear shaytls. To be clear, I have nothing against shaytls on other women as long as the shaytl flatters the woman wearing it. I just don’t like them on me.
  • As Jews, we have to live within Halacha (Jewish law), but within that realm, there are so many options. No one should feel that hair covering or modest dress has to look frumpy or unattractive. Yes, married women have to wear hair coverings, but we can look wonderful in our hats, berets, shaytls, or wraps. And when we look that good, it makes for a wonderful Kiddush Hashem (sanctification of G-d’s name).

As I wear my mitpachot, whether they’re Israeli square scarves, 2-in-1s, pashminas, and all the variations, I feel that they express my creativity and individuality in ways that I never experienced before. And I’ve found that when I express myself that way, it draws people in and commands respect.

I am so proud to be a part of the Wrapunzelution. Thank you to Andrea Grinberg and to all my wonderful friends for giving me a place to really express myself and feel good about it.”

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Pretty in Purple (Plus Next Week’s Color!)

WOW! Purple is a favorite color among Wrapunzelistas worldwide! This week’s #wrapunzeledinpurple Color of the Week got more submissions than any other color so far. We had tons of beautiful looks, from the fanciest to the most casual. Thank you to everyone who submitted! If you’d like to join the fun, go to the bottom of the post – next week’s color will be revealed, along with instructions on how to submit your photos!

Bonus: This week’s collage contains not one but TWO chickens. Can you find them? (hint: one is very, very small!)

And without further ado…. next week’s color is BROWN! Break out your favorite chocolate, coffee-colored, tan, leopard-print or taupe scarves and accessories and come wrap with us! (And yes, combining brown with a second color still counts!) If you want to join in, come over to the Wrapunzel Fangroup and share your pictures using the hashtag #wrapunzeledinbrown. Anybody who’s not on Facebook can email their pictures to us with the subject line “Color of the Week.” To be part of next week’s blog post, please submit your photos by Thursday!

#WrapunzeledInPurple !!

IMG_8642Hi world!  Here is my first entry for the #wrapunzeledinpurple week!  I love this tichel sooooo much!  It’s the pashmina from the truffleberry kit, an ombre sparkle 2 in 1, and a sequin headband.  Felt SO ‘me’!


My outfit was simple; an old swishy sweat skirt that I got in Israel (perfect for rehearsals!), a purple top with a white shell underneath… and my highschool era fuzzy jean jacket!

Hope you’re all having as much fun being #wrapunzeledinpurple as I am!

Love, Andrea


Shabbat Shimmery Twisted Yumminess!

Here are two outfits that I wore this Shabbat and last Shabbat!  Can you tell that I’m feeling the Shimmeries and the twists lastely?

This Shabbat I was soooo excited to wear my Mulberry Shimmery with one of the new Empress Circlets… did my classic two shimmery wrap (tutorial here) and was good to go!  Happy!

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Wishing us all a connected, safe, unified, and light-filled week <3

Andrea xxx

Wrapunzeled in Silver! (Plus: Next week’s color revealed!)

Hi everybody! We had a great time this week #wrapunzeledinsilver! This was a challenging color, since lots of us don’t have solid silver-colored scarves, so we opened it up a bit: pewter, grey, scarves with silver detailing, or even just silver accessories. It was great to see all the creativity that went on as ladies figured out how to work silver into a wrap. Someone even did a spoof wrap using aluminum foil!!! Can you spot it in the collage?

New for this week, we’re going to roll our round-up post and next week’s color announcement into one! So after you peruse these lovely photos, you’ll find next week’s adventure (and hashtag) listed at the bottom of the post. To join in the fun, come on over to the Wrapunzel Fangroup and share your pictures there, or email them to us with “Color of the Week” as the subject line! We’ll be back on Friday with next week’s round-up – stay tuned!

Woohoo! Thanks everyone for your wonderful submissions!! And without further ado….. next week’s color is…. PURPLE!! Please join us on the Fangroup or share your pics via email, using the hashtag #wrapunzeledinpurple! Wrap in purple with us on Tuesday (or later in the week is fine, if you can’t make it by then) – solid purple is great, of course, but feel free to pair it with another color, or experiment with purple accessories! For your picture to make it into next week’s blog post, we will need to receive it by Thursday. Can’t wait to see what you create!

A Fancy Ruffled Waves Pouf!

This morning I had a photoshoot with my friend Khadijah for her book, so I got all decked out!  I recreated my previous Shabbat outfit and wanted to share with you how I did the whole ruffled waves pouf on the side!

Here is a not high quality photo… will post photos from the photoshoot later!

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And here is the tutorial!

Red-y or Not, Here We Come!!

We had a fabulous time over on the Wrapunzel Fangroup this week, where our Color of the Week was red!! We had all kinds of amazing submissions both on the Fangroup and by email. If you’d like to join in the fun for Color-of-the-Week, we’ll be announcing a new color on Sunday! You can participate by posting your pictures on the Fangroup, or by emailing them to us  with “Color of the Week” as the subject line. Submissions need to arrive before Thursday night to be included in the Friday round-up post. Check back on Sunday to see what the new color will be…

And without further ado, here are some of our wonderful fans, #wrapunzeledinred!