Tichels vs Sheitals – What Wrapunzel Has to Say!

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There’s a lot of talk about tichels versus sheitals happening lately, and Wrapunzel seems to be brought up a lot in this debate.  Here is what we have to say about it! (Scroll down for a written transcript.)

(Btw I made a mistake with the job titles in this video-oops!  Yedida is our On-Site Manager. Naomi Rose is our Director of Operations!)

Here is a transcript of what I said in the video – thank you Tamar Adina for transcribing this!!

Hello!

I want to speak to you a little bit about tichels versus sheitels.  For those of you who don’t know, tichels refer to a headcovering that Jewish women wear.  It refers to a scarf, or kerchief in Yiddish, also known as mitpachot (plural) or mitpachat (single) in Hebrew.  So tichels are the scarf type of covering.  Sheitels are when a woman uses a wig to cover her hair.

So there’s been a lot of talk lately on tichels versus sheitels.  And for those of you who don’t know, my name is Andrea Grinberg, and I am from Wrapunzel, which is a hair covering community and website – just this huge explosion of women who have started wrapping their hair with scarves.   And with all this tichels versus sheitels talk, I’ve often heard it said that I’m on “Team Tichels”.  And I’m used as an example for that.  So this is the official video where we actually come down and talk about this, and I’m actually going to be making a statement as Wrapunzel.

The title of this video: “Tichels Vs. Sheitels” is actually a misnomer.   I despise the word versus.  And I think that there has been a lot of polarization in Judaism lately, which in many ways is fine.  To be different, to have differences is fine, and we’re actually supposed to have differences, but to say that “I’m right and you are wrong” is where the problem lies.

So I’m going to say a little bit about the word “Shalom”.  Shalom is often translated as “peace”.  And a lot of people believe that in order to have world peace, we have to all think and do the same thing.  And that’s simply not the case.  Shalom actually means harmony.  And harmony means that we are all playing the same piece music, and that we have the goal of making the world a beautiful, vibrant place, but we are all playing different instruments.  We are all doing different notes, we are doing different things.  That is what shalom is.  And that is what I hope I’m doing with my little part in Wrapunzel.  That is what I hope is going to happen in the world one day.

So let me tell you a little bit about how Wrapunzel, because I think that not everyone knows how Wrapunzel was created.  In a nutshell, I was a blissfully happy newlywed who had just moved to Chicago from Israel, and I loved covering my hair because it honored my marriage and it was allowing me to be creative – and it was just really really really fun!  And I loved it.  People were always asking me questions about it and I realized very quickly that somehow I was an “odd one out” because I loved covering my hair.  All the women, really, ALL the women that I talked to in Chicago, did NOT love covering their hair.  They saw it as a burden, they weren’t finding any joy in this mitzvah.  And I felt so sad for them! Here I was in my little blissful newlywed boots covering my hair, and these women weren’t finding joy through it.  So the reason why Wrapunzel was created was through a very naïve hope of mine that if I could share my joy in covering my hair, maybe these other women could find that joy as well.  I in no way wanted to tell women to stop wearing their sheitels.  I just wanted them to find joy.   A lot of women [in Chicago] were telling me that they felt like they either had to wear a sheitel (a wig) or they had to wear a black pre-tied snood, and they felt like they had no other options.

So when I created Wrapunzel, I just wanted to give women options.

That’s really all I wanted to do. 

So that’s how Wrapunzel was created.  And thank G-d, it seems that we’re able to do that, because we’ve all come together as women to give each other options.

In Judaism we have the halacha (Jewish law) that a married woman should cover her hair.  It doesn’t say with what, it doesn’t say how, just that a married woman should cover her hair.  And whether you cover your hair with a tichel, a sheitel, a hat, or a combination, you are fulfilling the mitzvah.  You are covering your hair.  And that is that.  That is what I believe.

For those of you who don’t know, I have a sheitel.  I own a sheitel.  And even with all these years of never wearing it, I haven’t given it away, because you never know.  I’m keeping it, and I think sheitels can be beautiful (and modest).  Okay?

So, the halacha is to cover your hair.  How we do that, how we find ourselves in that, how we reveal our unique personal light, that’s up to us.  And we really really have to look to ourselves and be honest with ourselves about how we are going to do that.

Now, I will mention that there are sects of Judaism that really hold strongly that covering with a tichel, a mitpachat, is the only way to cover and that sheitels are not valid.  And there are some sects of Judaism that hold that covering with a sheitel is the only way to cover your hair.  I’m not talking from any of those vantage points.  Both of those vantage points are valid, and both I will point out, acknowledge that there are other sects of Judaism that have valid ways of looking at things.  Judaism is not about all of us doing the same thing in the same way.  We all have the same goal, but we are not doing things in the same way.  That’s the whole point.

Okay.

So, this video is not talking to those that have to do one or the other.  I don’t come from those sects of Judaism, and the majority of women that have found Wrapunzel do not come from those sects of Judaism.

I want to give you an example.  Because I hear often that the whole “tichel movement” has become this huge movement and women are feeling liberated and joyous for the first time in their lives, and somehow they feel that “if I go back to wearing a sheitel” then somehow I’m a failure, or somehow Andrea won’t approve.  No. No. No. No. No. No. Really.  No.

I really want to give you this example, because we are supposed to find our own unique joy in doing this mitzvah.  And I want to give you an example of someone that might have found her joy actually through stopping wearing a tichel.  And how she is really really doing this mitzvah.  This is a completely hypothetical example.  Let’s say that there is a woman who is very introverted, spiritual, and very soft and kind, and absolutely beautiful, a wonderful graceful woman. And she’s been wearing tichels.  Now, because she’s so beautiful and so kind she gets a lot of attention for these tichels. She is a very modest, very introverted woman.   But she gets a lot of questions when she goes out about what she’s wearing and how she’s doing it and she doesn’t like that.  Because she feels like first of all somehow it’s not modest, she doesn’t want to go out and make this constant statement about who she is.  She just wants to be a Jew instead of constantly being asked about what this is on her head.  And it’s distracting her from her family and being with her kids and doing what she wants to do – it’s this constant conversation starter.  And she doesn’t want to have that conversation.  That is not her avodah.  That is not what she wants to be doing in this world. 

And she’s found that once she switched to a sheitel, she could actually, finally be herself.  She could finally leave her house and not get those constant questions.  Now for me, I love getting those questions and I love expressing myself in this way, but for this woman, this is not who she needs to be.  She doesn’t want those questions and she shouldn’t have to deal with those questions.   And for the first time in her life, now that she’s covering with a wig, she actually enjoys covering, because now she really feels like she is honoring her marriage instead of being part of some doctrine, or some movement it’s like making a constant statement about how she covers her hair.  She doesn’t like that.  Now she feels like she is really covering her hair for herself, her marriage, and for Hashem. 

I really want you to think about that because that woman is completely valid.  She has found herself, she has finally found her joy in this mitzvah.  Now will she go back and forth?  Maybe.  Will I ever wear a sheitel? Never say never! You never know!  We are constantly evolving and constantly trying to find ourselves. You have to be honest and really true with yourself.  So in that example, this woman who has found herself and found her joy through covering with a sheitel, we have to acknowledge that a woman might need to do that.

I just want to clear something up because I have a lot of friends that get married, and they seem to think that if they get married and they choose to cover their hair with a sheitel, oh well, “don’t tell Andrea, she’s going to be disappointed with me.”  You know, G-d willing if I have a daughter I don’t want her to think that she has to be me.  Or that she has to cover with a tichel.  That’s really not the point here.  We want people to find their unique joy through doing this mitzvah.

Now I have been asked numerous times, and so have other women who work at Wrapunzel have been asked to come out and make a statement about tichel wearing versus other ways of covering (ie wearing a sheitel).  And I want to say this now and I want to say this clearly: that’s not going to happen.  That is not what Wrapunzel is about.  That is not what I set out to do.  I’m not here to make “sides”.  Sides are not the point. I’m not going to do that and I don’t believe that.  It’s not going to happen.  So please, if anyone wants to send any more people to me asking me to do that, just. don’t…  The answer is no.  Because that is not the point.  And telling someone that what she is doing is wrong when she is covering her hair, she’s doing the mitzvah.  That’s not what it’s about.  Yes, I want to expose people to the joy of covering their hair this way, because that’s my joy and I want to share that.  But beyond that, I’m not interested. 

So interesting fact, and I’m going to leave you with this.  There’s a woman that works for Wrapunzel and her name is Yedida, she is basically the mover and shaker, everything, she keeps the tichel room from falling on my head when I walk in.  She is so organized and wonderful and joyous.  Yedida is our on-site-manager.  Now, don’t get me wrong, Wrapunzel is an extremely tiny, just women coming together business, we only have three people actually that work for Wrapunzel, but we need those three people to make things happen because there is a lot that needs to go into sending out your tichels all over the world and bringing women together.  When Rivkah Malka had to step down, and I was about to have a baby, we really really needed some help to make things happen so things would not fall apart when I had Shalomy.

So, who is Yedida? Yedida is our on-site manager.  She is amazingly organized and has innovative ideas about how to makes things better and how to make things work, and she is the person that allows me to be here making a video like this instead of having tichels fall onto my head when I walk into the room.  That’s why I’m able to make this video and I’m able to take care of my baby.

So, thank G-d we have Yedida. 

What does that have to do with this video?  Yedida is a sheitel wearer.  She wears sheitels I’d say 95% of the time.  Sometimes she wears hats, and once in a while she wears a tichel.  But she wears sheitels.  And she looks beautiful and modest and wonderful and absolutely shining in her sheitels.  When we hired her, some people expressed some surprise.  We had a lot of women applying for this job, and many of them were big tichel wearers.  When we hired Yedida some people were like, “Why would you hire someone that wears a sheitel to work at Wrapunzel?” And my answer was “How could I not hire Yedida?! She’s amazing!” I didn’t even (well, I did, but who cares) notice what this woman was wearing on her head.  The whole point of Wrapunzel is bringing women together and this woman is going to help us do that, she’s going to help us be able to do that.  In the end, this is really what Wrapunzel is all about.  Bringing women together.  Helping women reclaim their joy, express their creativity, and shine their light upon the world in their own, unique way.  So it’s not that we hired Yedida because she wears a sheitel, but it’s actually perfectly fitting that she does because that is what Wrapunzel is all about.  It’s about all women.  It’s about the full woman.

I hope you enjoyed this video.

Again, there are no sides.

There is just us as Jewish women trying to reclaim our joy, express ourselves, to be who we need to be, and giving women options.

All the best.

Bye bye.

Naomi Rose: Haircovering for Intense Workouts!

Hey Wrapunzelistas! I made this short video before going running yesterday. I’m no world-class athlete, but as a kid/teenager I was VERY active (ice skating, ballet, swimming, etc.) and I started running in middle school, working my way up over the years to a half-marathon in 2013 (fun fact – my husband proposed to me on our first 10-mile training run together!).

For serious workouts, whether it’s running, Zumba, hiking, African dance, or anything else, those of us who cover our hair need an extra dimension to our technique. A good workout tichel:

1) should be comfortable and breathable,
2) must NOT budge, EVER,
3) ideally would be something you feel good in, appearance-wise. I find that having workout clothes that I look forward to wearing (as opposed to feeling ugly in) can actually help me exercise more.

After lots of trial and error, this is my failsafe running tichel. I’ve also gone swimming like this, and worn it on a bike!

 

It’s a simple-but-sweet Israeli Tichel tie over the fabulous No-Slip Headband, and let me tell you, it won’t go ANYWHERE! I have yet to find the activity that will dislodge this wrap.

Do you have a favorite way to cover your hair for exercise?? Share it in the comments! We’d love to hear from you!!

 

Tamar Adina: Help Me Pick My Colors!

 

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Hi Wrapunzelers!

Do you like to read Dear Abby? I do! Well, sometimes we at Wrapunzel get our own version with the following kinds of questions:

Dear Wrapunzel – I really like the 2 in 1s and the pashminas, but I’m not sure what colors I should buy. How do I pick colors? I’m on a limited budget but I want to really look nice!

   Sincerely,
   Colorless and Confused

Dear Wrapunzel – Andrea did this amazing video and I liked it so much that I bought all of the tichels and tried to wrap it at home. I managed to tie it properly, but it just doesn’t look nice on me. Why don’t my tichels look as nice on me as they look on the models in the store?

   Signed,
   Feeling Frumpy

Dear Wrapunzel – I really want to dress using more color, like Andrea and Naomi Rose. But every time I try to wear something colorful or if I try to not match perfectly, I wind up looking like I got dressed in a dark closet. I usually end up defaulting to black as a result. Can you help me ditch the black?

   Signed,
   Accidental Goth

 

I feel your pain ladies; all of you are basically having an issue with the same thing: color. As I’ve mentioned before, color is relative, and when a particular piece of fabric is placed next to your skin, it will appear different than when it is placed on someone else’s skin. As for our Accidental Goth, would you believe that I suffered from too-much-black-itis as well? I have always had a closet full of colors but I never really wore them. It took me a long time to lose the black. After all, the media and current cultural climate have bombarded women with the message that black is slimming, glamorous, and always a good choice for a frum wedding. And I want to look slim! I want to look glamorous!

But the truth is that looking great is not just a matter of putting on any figure-flattering outfit.   The cut of your clothes is only half the battle – choosing the right color clothing can mean the difference between appearing vibrant and glowing – or looking strung out and ill. Wearing the right color can take years off your appearance or it can age you by ten years. Colorless, it sounds like you need a return to color theory class.   A color wheel can help you to determine what colors look best for you. And as for Frumpy, the various nuances in individual skin coloring is altering how a specific color looks. On Andrea, a certain color is fantastic. On you, the exact same combination is merely “meh.”

So that Little Black Dress should sometimes be the Little Blue Dress, or the Little Orange Dress, because the LBD just doesn’t work for everyone. Individual variations with a person’s skin tone (namely if you are warm or cool — see previous post HERE) can radically change how a color appears.

For the quick refresher course that I promised – cool people have pink-based skin tone. Their skin often has rosy cheeks and shows blue or purple veins. Their eyes can be very dark brown, dark blue, grey blue or hazel. Cool toned individuals have natural hair color that trend towards blue-ish black, dark brown, medium ash brown, or golden blonde.  To further narrow it down, there are “summer cools” (picture Reese Witherspoon) and “winter cools” (think Anne Hathaway). But that doesn’t mean that cool toned people only have light skin! Skin shades can range to include brown with a reddish or blue undertone (think model and fashion designer Alex Wek) to pale with pink undertones.

As a rule of thumb: people with cool tones look best in fabric with a blue-base like a vivid raspberry, a deep emerald green, royal blue, sapphire blue, dark teal, and pure black. Those with lighter shades of skin can wear rose-based pinks, aqua blue-greens, pure whites and soft whites.

Warm-toned people have a more golden or apricot complexion. Skin can be brown, medium or pale but all will have golden (or peach!) undertones. The vein test yields results that look a bit more greenish than blue.  Natural hair color ranges from golden blonde, reddish brown, strawberry, red and all the way to black. Eyes tend to be amber, golden brown, hazel, or green. For celebrity color matching inspiration imagine Jennifer Lopez, Naomi Campbell, and Beyoncé.

People with warm tones glow when wearing bronzes, camels, mochas, sage greens, mango oranges and burnt oranges. They also look great in greens in the shade of moss, olive and jade. In summer, they can add lime, celery greens, ivory, or oyster whites.

Check out the following helpful chart:

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So what does this mean for tichels? Tichels follow the same rules as finding your favorite clothing fabric! However, whereas you can have a bit more leeway for your skirt, anything that is RIGHT. NEXT. TO. YOUR. FACE can have a drastic effect on your overall appearance. So, what’s poor Colorless to do? Well, fear not!

 

If you are cool toned, try out the following “staple” scarves from Wrapunzel:

The Shinylicious: in Silver, White, Teal, or Silvery Black

2-in-1s: Black, Pewter, Light Gray, Dark Brown, White, Olive, Very Light Blue, Slate Blue, Dark Blue, Teal, Purple, Lilac, Lighter Lilac, and burgundy.

The Shimmery: Royal Blue, Aqua, Ice Blue, Teal, Light Teal, Beige Gold, Brown, Black, Silvery Black, Pewter, Silvery White, Navy, White, Light Purple, Purple

Solid Pashminas: Black, Bright Purple, Berry Wine, Eggplant, Navy, Wine, Rivka Malka’s Teal, Pewter, and Dark Brown.

For accessories – try things that are silver based. Check out Vintage Beauty (An absolute FAVORITE of mine!), Hibiscus Haven, the Ruffled Waves sash in Black, and the Razzmatazz in Silver.

 

Burgundy and Teal Liezel

 

If you are warm toned –

Lakeshore Bliss: Green, Pink and Red Sherbert, Brown,

New York Brights: White, Pink, Red, Light Purple, Orange, Yellow, Brown with Color, Brown, Colorful Grey.

Soft Pashminas: White, Brown, Deep Purple, Sky Blue, Aqua, Yellow, Light Pink, Magenta

Solid Pashminas: Dark Forest Green, Green, Olive, Light Brown, Pink, Pumpkin, Berry Plum, Red, Andrea’s Teal, Yellow, Orange, Seafoam Green

For accessories try items that are gold-based and sashes in the same color schemes as the above tichels. I love the Razzmatazz in Gold, Cosmic Wonder in Brown, the Empress Circlet, and any of the Braided Wreaths.

 

As for Accidental Goth, breaking out from the bad black habit can be hard. If you are used to wearing black on a daily basis, adding colors (even though you want to do it!) can still feel outside your comfort zone. My best advice is to start slowly. It is shocking to (both your sense of self and to your wallet!) if you abandon your deeply cultivated sense of black-themed clothing. So don’t start off by suddenly purging your entire wardrobe. I personally started adding patterns into my wardrobe by buying a few maxi skirts that had black somewhere as an accent color, but not as the main focus. The first few times I wore the skirts, I paired them with black crew tops. After a few wears, I started wearing crew tops that matched the purple in the skirt, or the burgundy…then I paired them with blue. The Wrapunzel Signature Skirt can be a nice gateway to creating a less monotonous wardrobe.

But what if you are in a professional setting where maxi skirt fabric is a bit too casual for the office? Well, I bet that right now, your gut instinct is probably to grab a black bottom to match whatever nice top you have in your closet. Although it’s hard, start the transition by selecting a different solid color to wear instead of that black skirt. Don’t try to complain that you need the black skirt in order to appear ten pounds lighter. You can help to minimize a larger derriere by choosing a solid dark color skirt (think navy, brown, dark gray, burgundy, dark teal and even deep purple!) While you are at it, try to swap out your black blazer or jacket for a non-black option.   Become creative with your color combinations. Use the color wheel when you make combinations! It’s sometimes easiest for beginners to pick colors that are analogous (next to each other), but you can also just start combining cool colors with other cool colors. A teal top can match a burgundy skirt. A dark brown skirt pairs well with blue, pink, purple, gold, red, and green tops. Cream, mango, and tan look fantastic together. Deep purple pairs really well with a cool, dark green (there are tons of Wrapunzel posts about this). Deep purple also pairs nicely with gray.

 

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In the height of my black era I wore a black skirt, a white or black shell, and a colored top daily. My current personal goal is to try to avoid the stark white shell underneath a colored top and to instead pair different colors together. Now, does that mean that I gave up all white shells? Nope.

 

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See?

 

I just stopped wearing this:

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What will your color goals be for yourself?

Good luck! I can’t wait to see the selfies!

 

Love,

Tamar Adina

Yael’s “Turban Regal Wrap with a Twist!”

This is my new favourite summer wrap – invented by Yael!  It’s perfect for our new Summer Solid Pashminas!
Here is a little about Yael, in her own words:

“I am Italian, I´m born in Florence and I lived there till I was 25. Then I made a PhD at the Hebrew Universty of Jerusalem, on Purity/Impurity in Biblical Hebrew. I meet my husband there, who was born in Hamburg Germany and we lived then in Jerusalem for 10 Years. At the moment we live in Germany in a little town near Frankfurt, where we´re the only jewish orthodox family (besides a very old couple). Therefore we are trying to leave Germany, in order to find a living jewish community, in Europe, America, Israel, in which we can live our yiddishkeit together with other …. Our kids (three) need friends and structures in order to develop themselves… Actually my english is better than in the tutorial (a part my Italian accent), but I was very excited to make my first video at all and I am not yet comfortable with the tichels and wrapping vocabulary… “

Well… I certainly think she did an incredible job!  LOVING this wrap!

Ain’t Sorry for Lovin My Saris!

It’s amazing… once you’ve mastered the technique of trying a sari (I know that there’s a learning curve there… but keep trying!  You’ll get it!) – it’s really the easiest go-to scarf!  I don’t have to fold it to fit my head… and even when I mess up the layers it still looks great and intricate.  I can really wear just one and it feels like I’ve done so much!  And if you choose a perfect color by your face, no one will notice you’re not wearing any makeup!  (Right ladies?!  Ok, don’t tell me if you do notice :P )  Here are some sari looks that I’ve been rocking lately.

The navy:

The sandy beach:

The dark earth:

And the bright teal:

“Andrea seriously, how many saris do you have?!”

I get this question a lot, and the answer is that it changes all the time!  Currently I think I have around 10, but none of them are the same ones that I had last year!  I tend to pass them on to people off of my head!  This is a common occurrence at Wrapunzel shows; often someone will fall in love with a sari I’m wearing and beg me for it. If I feel like I’ve used it enough, I’ll give it a new home.  Spreading the sari love!  (And it’s a good excuse for me to get another to replace it!)

Wanna learn the story behind the Wrapunzel scarf?
And how to wrap it?
This is my favourite way to tie it!
And we LOVE the sari sash!  Here is how to tie it!

Wishing you all so much bracha and happiness!  Enjoy your colors!
xo Love Andrea

The Wrapunzelution: So Much MORE Than Hair Wrapping!

There are no words to describe the gratitude that one feels when seeing a message like this.  This is everything that I ever dreamed Wrapunzel would become.  May we only continue to all grow bigger and brighter!

Written by Emily Rose from Oregon

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“For me, covering my hair and surrendering to modesty has been the most positive, affirming, freeing choice I have ever made in relation to how I feel about my body and in the year I’ve been wrapping, it’s changed everything for me and I can’t even think about it without crying.  I have a long, ugly history of severe mental illness; I have severe social anxiety, severe panic attacks, and I also have a long history of eating disorders including anorexia and I still struggle with bulimia to this day. Often, my various symptoms are intrusive to the point that it keeps me from school, work, and life. But this isn’t about illness, I want this to be about the unique challenges we all face as women in world obsessed with the physical, trying to feel good and connect with others. I still struggle and fight with myself, but I am light years from where I used to be. Years of therapy has not done for me what connecting with my spirituality and creator has, and walking the path to modesty has done and is continuing to do for me. I could write a book on this and maybe someday I will. For now, I just want to tell all of you how strong and beautiful wrapping makes me feel, and I want to hear how it’s changed things for you, too. I never thought standing out could make me feel safe and strong, make me feel right, make me feel beautiful, make me love the way I look and love getting dressed while always knowing that my body doesn’t define me, make me appreciate every amazing thing this body I live in can do –but that’s exactly what covering does for me!  I’ll throw it to you ladies – have any of you struggled with body image and found that covering has changed the way you feel about yourself? How so? I know I’m not alone!”

Rivka Writes!

We all have ladies in our lives that we admire – who have such bright, positive, determined attitudes, and inspire us to be better versions of ourselves! Rivka is one of these ladies. A veteran Wrapunzelista, this Lady Wrap Star has helped so many women to feel and look beautiful. She has helped at our shows, made tutorials, and is an active poster on the Fangroup, where her gentle smile is completely contagious!! She sent us this beautiful essay on how wrapping has impacted her spiritual life and actions. Enjoy!!!

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I love my tichels! I love playing around with all the different styles, colors and textures. It is an amazing creative outlet for me. On a day to day basis, I don’t have too many opportunities to play around, have fun and express myself. My office job doesn’t involve much creativity for me. Maybe if I wasn’t on such a tight schedule, the kitchen would be my creative outlet. But anyway, “would’ve, should’ve, could’ve” will never get you anywhere. The gift Hashem gave me now is the ability and resources to be creative with the mitzva of covering my hair. But more then that, what I love more is how differently carrying out this mitzva in a tichel versus a sheitel (wig) makes me feel.

When I wear my tichels, I feel like Hashem is wrapping me and embracing me. He is telling me He is right there with me, holding my hand. Providing me with strength to do what is right, and giving me the direct telephone line to speak with Him.

I know that my hair was covered when I wore my sheitels too. It’s not as if I have taken on a completely new thing. I have just been continuing to do what I’ve always done since I wed. So why, then, this change? Why does wrapping my hair with tichels give me all these added bonuses?

(click the pictures to view them in a larger size!)

I think it is this: Since wrapping my hair, I am much more conscious of what I am doing. I don’t just throw on a sheitel. First, I put on a no-slip band, checking  – is all my hair secure? Am I tznius (modest, inward-focused)? This is “Step 1″ – I need to be conscious that I am doing this for other reasons than just looking pretty. Then I add my tichel shaper, Step 2. Finally I wrap around my crown, my symbol, saying “Yes, I am royalty. I am the daughter of the King of all kings.” I add on my jeweled accessories and finishing touches making sure I am presentable enough to represent my Father the King.

Throughout the day I feel my crown laying on my head and I remember; Hashem is with me, I am representing Him with my crown. Representing Him causes me to be extremely aware of how I must conduct myself and strengthens me to do what is right. Furthermore it is known the more you give the more you love. The Hebrew word for love, ‘ahavah,’ comes from the word ‘hav,’ to give. The effort I give to this mitzva increases my love for Hashem and others. The more effort I put into my tichel wrapping, the more I love Hashem, the more I feel so close, the more I call out to Him from my heart to hold my hand and carry me through my struggles.